First muslim in same-sex marriage bounces back from mosque bully boys to tie knot with man who saved his life
A Muslim man is the first of his faith in the UK to wed in a same-sex marriage.
Jahed Choudhury, 24, grew up feeling ostracised by the Muslim community because he was gay and was even sent on a religious pilgrimage to change his sexual orientation
After a lifetime of bullying which pushed Jahed to try and take his own life- Sean Rogan, 19, found him crying on a town bench and the newlyweds have not looked back since.
Jahed said: “This is about showing people I don’t care, my family doesn’t want to come on the day, they just don’t want to see it, it’s too embarrassing for them.
“They think it’s a disease and can be cured, some of my family still call it a phase.
“I want to say to all people going through the same thing that’s it’s okay – we’re going to show the whole world that you can be gay and Muslim.”
At a low-key ceremony at Walsall registry office, Jahed from Darlaston, tied the knot in traditional Muslim attire with his partner of two years, Sean.
In what is seen as a cultural taboo for many traditional Muslims, Mr Choudhury is one of only a few openly-gay Muslim men and the first in the UK to marry another man.
Growing up with Bangladeshi parents and three siblings in a traditional Muslim household, Mr Choudhury recalls being the “black sheep” of the family.
He is now looking forward to a happy life with Mr Rogan, who he first met while crying on a bench in Darlaston.
Mr Choudhury said: “I’d not long overdosed and I was crying on a bench and Sean came over and asked if I was okay. He gave me hope at one of my lowest points and he’s stood by me all the way.”
“I stood out like a sore thumb – I never liked football, I preferred watching fashion shows on TV. I remember feeling trapped.”
He said: “It went all over school, people would spit on me, empty the rubbish bins on me, call me pig and the Muslim people would shout ‘harum’ – which is a very nasty insult in my language.”
A period of trying to change his sexual orientation consisted of him having a girlfriend, changing his social circle, taking medication and even going on a pilgrimage to Saudi Arabia and Bangladesh.
According to Mr Choudhury the situation only got worse – he was assaulted by fellow Muslims in the street where he lived and ‘fag’ was sprayed on his front door.
The mosque he’d been attending for the past 15 years no longer allowed him in and he was physically attacked by other Muslim boys. Feeling ostracised, Mr Choudhury attempted to kill himself.
Jahed said: “I’d been viciously attacked by Muslim boys, my mosque told me non-Muslims were not allowed in.
“I tried killing myself and I then met Sean. The housing association got us a house in a week and we’ve been living together ever since. I proposed on Sean’s birthday last June.”
Mr Choudhury says he has post-traumatic stress disorder meaning he struggles to face people alone and can’t work.
But now he has taken a significant step forward for both the Muslim and LGBT communities.
He added: “We’re going to have a big party in Darlaston afterwards and go to Spain for a week on holiday.
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