“I’m complete now”: Woman’s relentless 15-year search for her birth mother ends with an emotional FaceTime
This woman’s r Ever relentless 15-year search for her birth mother ended with an emotional FaceTime – and she documented the tear-filled aftermath in a video diary.
since she can remember, Jessica Nicole, 33, always knew she was adopted – but that never stopped her wondering who her birth parents really were.
As the curiosity continued to fester over the years, at 18, Jessica, from Atlanta, Georgia, reached out to the Catholic Charities – the organisation who oversaw her adoption – but was told her mother would have to “want to see her first.”
Disheartened but still determined, Jessica persevered for another 15 years, exhausting every online ancestry website and scouring the Facebook profiles of hundreds of women, using the only common denominator she had: her mother’s first name, “Tammy.”
Turning once again to social media in March, Jessica set up a Facebook page, “Looking for Tammy,” where, on September 4, she was contacted by Monica Monger, who works for Catholic Charities.
Discovering the mother-of-one’s page by chance, Monica reached out to Tammy in secret, and, shortly afterward, Jessica’s phone rang.
Catching the aftermath of the call in her video diary, Jessica is noticeably overcome with shock and emotion as she struggles to recall the encounter.
With a meet up with Tammy now in the works, Jessica admits she finally feels complete after more than three decades of uncertainty.
Jessica, a single mother, said: “My adopted family have always been open about my adoption and supportive in my search.
“I always wondered if she [Tammy] ever thought about me.
“I tried online ancestry websites, but I was only able to located third and fourth generations of family.
“I then started looking elsewhere again and decided to post a video to social media.
“Months went by, but when I heard from Monica, I was excited.
“Letters were sent and then I got the call to say she’d found her.
“I always knew we’d find each other – but I still couldn’t believe it.
“I was sobbing on the phone because I felt like I was dreaming.
“I kind of zoned out, it was all very surreal.
“I’ve always thought about the moment we were separated, laying in her arms as a newborn in that cold hospital room – how she felt, what she was going through.
“I never hated her for what she did.”
Tammy fell pregnant with Jessica when she was still at high school, aged 15.
Keeping the pregnancy a complete secret until she went into labour, Tammy was forced by her mother to give her baby up.
Shortly after her birth, in 1984, she was placed into the care of Catholic Charities, before a family in Jackson, Mississippi, took her into their care.
Jessica said: “We chatted for about 20 minutes.
“We haven’t met yet, but we are working towards it.
“My mother is a very private person and had been through a lot.
“We’ve both had or share of ups and downs, but we’re getting closer and connecting.
“I’m looking forward to hugging her.
“She’s also supportive in my search for my birth father.
“The feeling is indescribable.
“We both have found each other at a time in our lives when we both need one another.
“I can’t wait to continue discovering each other.”
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