Obese wife sheds half her bodyweight to make a lifetime of memories with her dying husband
An obese wife has shed half her bodyweight in order to make a lifetime of memories with her dying husband
Taylor Murphy, 24, from Seattle in Washington, USA, tipped the scales at 20st (280lb) when partner Ricky Carrington, 29, was diagnosed with a glioblastoma, an incurable brain cancer and given 15 months to live.
After using food as ‘emotional crutch’ her whole life, Taylor knew she needed to be in the best physical shape to make the most of their time together.
She went from multiple large Starbucks mochas, takeaways and chocolatey treats, to a restricted food intake after having a vertical sleeve gastrectomy last year.
Taylor switched healthy meal-planning combined with daily exercise with her husband and lost an impressive 10stone (140lb).
Now she’s making up for lost time wearing a two-piece on the beach for the very first time and couple’s activities from visiting theme parks, Disneyland and more.
Taylor, a retail store manager, said: “When my husband was diagnosed with an incurable form of brain cancer, I used food as an emotional crutch.
“It’s been absolutely devastating for us, I wasted a lot of my life eating, sleeping and not being with him, but now we’ve both got to keep fighting now.
“For the first couple of months it was really numbing but I got a reality check and decided to make the best experiences I can in however much time we have left.
“After our wedding, I thought about what I could do to get happy and healthy for him, I made the decision to have weight loss surgery.
“A lot of my weight loss success came down to knowing I couldn’t fail I wasn’t just doing this for myself but my husband too, failing was not an option
“I have so much more energy now, before I used to get home and go straight to bed after eating, now I’m not as tired.
“Having so much more energy has made our marriage all the stronger, I feel like my weight and mood was breaking him down before.
“Recently on the beach I was wearing a two-piece and didn’t care about what anybody thought, before I never thought I would ever be able to do that.
“I don’t feel like I’m being judged any more, before I was scared, miserable and constantly hiding who I am.
“Now we’ve been making the most of our time from visiting Disneyland, Hawaii, to hikes, beach breaks, visiting Pike Place Market and things I wouldn’t have had the energy to do before.”
Taylor weight soared out of control from poor nutrition choices, including regularly eating takeaways for most meals, desserts as a snack and high-sugared drinks.
She added: “I was always overweight, growing up I made bad food choices and while I was active, I didn’t put a lot of energy into it.
“I didn’t have the best mental state before, I was the face of the company for so was on a cycle of working, eating then going to sleep.
“My reactions and emotions were always focussed around food – whether it was when I was sad or happy.”
But after partner Ricky’s terminal brain cancer diagnosis with a glioblastoma in 2014, she knew she had to change to be fit enough to take care of him and to make their lives as happy as possible.
Taylor said: “Unfortunately with the cancer we know there will be a point where I will need to take care of him, at that time I couldn’t even take care of myself mentally or physically.
“I knew I couldn’t eat my emotions away anymore, food was not going to help and so I made the decision to change my life.”
She opted for weight loss surgery in Mexico, which combined with healthy eating and regular exercise led her to transform her body.
Since slimming down to 10st 2 (142lb) Taylor says as well as the change in her mentality, colleagues and friends often double-take when they see her.
Taylor said: “Before at work I would hide in the back office some days because people are judgemental and I didn’t feel good about myself but now I feel great.
“Now people don’t recognise me when I walk into stores I haven’t visited for a while, one of the girls I knew took 15 seconds to realise who I was.
“It says a lot about how different I look now, I don’t hide behind loud, colourful clothing and my hair like I used to – I’m getting attention for the right reasons.”
Taylor now intends to start competitive bodybuilding.
She said: “My weight loss has implemented great lifestyle changes and hobbies that don’t revolve around drinking and eating anymore.
“Before I was large but now I have strong thighs and a slim, muscular build, I wear crop tops in public and get a lot of complements.
“I was even told that I look athletic, which was something I never thought would happen.”
Taylor attributes her husband as her inspiration and motivation for losing weight so quickly, but also says social media played a part in helping to keep herself accountable.
She said: “Ricky is very supportive, where some partners can struggle when their partner loses a lot of weight mine has been incredible.
“He compliments my body, tells me I’m beautiful and loves my confidence, he can see how happy I am and I love hearing the complements about how thin I am now.
“I never thought I would be so confident and happy with where I am in life, I’m shocked and so proud.”
Breakfast – premier protein shakes
Snacks – almonds
Lunch – piece of ham with cheese and fruit
Snacks – premier protein, string cheese or vegetables
Dinner – lamb chops with zucchini noodles
Dessert – power crunch bar
Breakfast – two Starbucks chocolate croissants with Venti iced mochas
Snacks – cookies and KitKat bars
Lunch – seafood pasta or PFChang with a Redbull
Snacks – chocolate mousse or cake
Dinner – half a large pizza
Dessert – tiramisu or ice cream
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